Give someone advice can be a bad idea, most of
the people are not willing to listen, and when you try to help, if you don´t
see the bigger picture, you may make the things worse.
Although are in the moments of heat that people
usually need a help of a friend, are also in those moments that no one wants to
listen. To force a situation when you make them hear what you have to say can shake
your relationship, and will not take anyone anywhere.
Is a common thing for us try to help our close
ones when they´re in a bad situation, but one thing i learn is that you have to
let them deal with it themselves. Like i saided before the chances of making
the problem bigger them it is, and of you leaving as the wrong one is huge.
So when to give advice make sure that the person
is willing to listen and that you are aware of the whole situation.
But hey, did i just give an advice?
Your post made me remind about two popular sayings that contradict each other:
ReplyDelete"If advice was good, wouldn't be for free" and;
"The wise ones learn with other person's mistakes, the smart ones learn with their own, but the dumbs never learn"
Even that I usually don't follow my friends and family's advices, I think it's better keep listening to them. rs
I only give advice when people asks me, I try to avoid the stress.
ReplyDeletekkkkkkkkkkkk I love the comments. Sometimes people used to say interesting things and I like to listen, even when they are the worst advice (as Andre said). My mother used to tell me that we just give some advice when others ask for it, or when they give you an opportunity to talk about some issues.
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